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Post by CNGoodhue on Jan 7, 2016 3:49:27 GMT
This was a cool thread on the old UG, so I'm gonna remake it. If you were there then you already know how this works, but if you weren't basically you can just ask for advice about anything (school, jobs, relationships, etc.) and someone (or multiple people) will most likely answer :) We're already a pretty close-knit community here, but I feel that this thread brings us just a little bit closer.
So ask away! I may have a question or two later on.
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Post by WookieeElf on Jan 7, 2016 3:55:54 GMT
I like this idea.
Okay, so...this is slightly awkward. There's this young man at our church (stifle the groans, I can hear them forming). He's nice, we're 'friends', but not like close friends. Anyway, long story short: He asked my cousin's dad if he could court her. Turns out she's courting another guy, so that kinda flopped. He took it like a man (props to him) but now my dad's joking that he's gonna be focusing his attention on another 'pretty lady'... And I've been receiving a little more attention than I've usually gotten the past couple weeks. Am I just imagining? I don't know what to do in this situation, I don't know his age, but my cousin is 22, and I'm 18. It's kinda a stretch, and the other young woman my sisters think he's trying to woo is 16. I'm totally confused, this is a long rant, I apologize, but I'm tired and that's when things usually come out. Bleh.
For those of you who survived reading this, I applaud you.
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Post by NightBlade on Jan 7, 2016 4:42:55 GMT
I'm assuming you're asking for advice on the sitch? First, I wonder how many people are in your church. But there's two possibilities...one is that he's immediately looking for another courting option, but the second is that he just completely, 100% (in his mind) lost a female friend, so he just needs to make up for it by spending more time with different females (guys tend to see things in extremes... the friendzone is a lie to us xP if it's over, it's gone) Asking him would honestly be the best approach, but he himself might not even be sure what exactly he's doing so maybe don't do that yet x) it may become obvious soon. Men are not often subtle x)
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Post by WookieeElf on Jan 7, 2016 4:48:03 GMT
Yeah, I was. My mind is sleep-deprived, heh. We've got about 100 in attendance, usually. Lost a couple big families over 2015 (moving and stuff). He is a friendly guy. That could be it. I'll keep an eye on him, though. Thanks for the help!
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Post by jliessa44 on Jan 7, 2016 4:56:08 GMT
I'll be honest with you, if he's a friendly guy in general then unless he says otherwise, he's just being friendly. Even if he's not your typical friendly guy, unless he says it's something more then it's not. So many women fall into the trap of thinking a guy being friendly is a guy flirting and it's not the same. I probably wouldn't ask, as that can make friendships awkward. If he's trying to determine whether you two would be a good match or not then don't rush him, be friendly as a sister in Christ and everything will work out.
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Post by NightBlade on Jan 7, 2016 5:05:38 GMT
THANK YOU. Understanding when a guy is just being nice because he thinks you're nice and cool doesn't mean he wants to put a date on it! Don't worry Wookiee that wasn't aimed at you at all, just at the general female population.
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Post by jliessa44 on Jan 7, 2016 5:12:48 GMT
Lol. You're welcome Nightblade.
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Post by WookieeElf on Jan 7, 2016 15:32:09 GMT
Thanks y'all. That's one less thing for me to worry about. XP
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Post by jliessa44 on Jan 7, 2016 17:18:34 GMT
Np.
Okay... So I actually have a question for y'all... Do you guys (gals too) actually notice when someone shapes their eyebrows? Like so many people put so much work into it, and then I literally never notice. O.o
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Post by Starsinger on Jan 7, 2016 18:57:39 GMT
It really depends on my mood... Sometimes I do notice, other times meh. On the rare occasion, like weddings or I know I'm meeting new people etc, I'll shape mine, generally just a teensy bit... But I can never be bothered keeping it up the rest of the time.
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Post by jliessa44 on Jan 7, 2016 20:20:33 GMT
That's cool. I've never done mine, but I'm too lazy to put on lipstick 95% of the time. Lol.
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Post by Starsinger on Jan 7, 2016 20:26:23 GMT
I just hate wearing lipstick, so meh, I never bother.
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Post by Leilani Sunblade on Jan 7, 2016 20:32:14 GMT
I don't notice when people shape their eyebrows. But according to my former youth group, they sort of notice . . . or, they notice if you don't do it, and it looks weirdish. I never bother to shape mine; it's too much effort and I never see anyone to make it worth doing.
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Post by jliessa44 on Jan 7, 2016 21:40:15 GMT
Hmm. There was one girl, a complete stranger, who complemented my friends eyebrows when I had never noticed she was shaping them. And I've known my friend most my life. >.<
On lipstick, I actually don't mind it. But I do prefer tinted lip gloss over actual lipstick. Foundation, blush and mascara are really the only make up I "need" to look conventionally pretty but I hardly ever use them either.
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Post by Starsinger on Jan 7, 2016 22:42:00 GMT
Ah right. I don't tend to notice unless it's pointed out. And otherwise I only notice if they're unusually huge (like my lil sister's)
Eh, concealer, foundation or bb cream, and eye liner on the bottom lid if I'm going for really dressy (only the bott because I can't do the top, haven't bothered practicing, and don't really need on the top). I do have to say if love to see if a dark red lipstick would work for me...but it would probably be too big a difference for me to like to do it.
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Post by NightBlade on Jan 7, 2016 22:54:45 GMT
Speaking from myself and other guys who I consider the better people out of my friends, no. We don't notice unless it's a huge difference and they're like all immaculate...and THEN to be honest with you it's kind of a turnoff at least for me and my friends I've talked to. If we noticed that you have a literal mask of foundation and sharpie eyebrows, it doesn't make the kind of impression you might think it does.
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Post by WookieeElf on Jan 7, 2016 23:01:40 GMT
I don't notice eyebrows unless someone points them out. The only thing I've done to mine is smooth them out occasionally XP I do appreciate some of the effort ladies put in—I've seen some fine eyebrows, trust me—but others are just...meh. Too much. I've been going to church too much (which isn't a bad thing!), I'm used to ladies with little or no make-up, honestly. When someone's wearing too much...I notice. Some people (my sister) can pull it off. Others, not so much. It depends on the face shape, and the colors of the makeup... For myself, I just do face-powder, blush, nude eyeshadow, lipstick and lipgloss. Mascara I save for Sunday, but even then I barely put it on. I'm more comfortable without all of it, but I can't do into work looking like a zombie. *sigh*
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Post by CNGoodhue on Jan 8, 2016 0:40:05 GMT
Honestly when girls wear too much make up there just becomes a point where it actually has the opposite of the intended effect lol. There are hardly any models/Hollywood stars that I'd consider attractive because the majority of them look the same. They're too touched up. Like whenever I see a commercial for a makeup or beauty product, I wonder if they're just using the same couple of models over and over again. xD
So question.
I'm kinda an overthinker. I tend to analyze every worst possible outcome in social situations so I have a hard time just going up to people and talking to them out of fear of sounding dumb, creating awkward silence, etc. It makes it more awkward than it should have to be. :P Also I overthink stuff like texting certain people. There's this one person that I've been acquainted with in the last month (people are going to start teasing me about liking her soon...blegh), and we texted for a while, but I've stopped starting conversations with her recently because I fear she may think I'm clingy and doesn't want to talk to me. How the heck do I overcome this...this...over-analyzation awkwardness stuff?!
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Post by NightBlade on Jan 8, 2016 1:11:48 GMT
Hollywood and magazine cover women send me reeling for the toilet often as not CNGoodhue just stay chill and norm bruh don't change anything or that will make ppl wonder
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Post by Starsinger on Jan 8, 2016 1:15:40 GMT
Magazine cover women also happen to be ultra photoshopped, often the makeup is photoshopped on as well.
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Post by WookieeElf on Jan 8, 2016 1:20:29 GMT
CNGoodhue: I have the same exact problem. Still haven't beat it, but I find that when you do overcome the fear and text/start conversation first, you'll be glad you did in the end.
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Post by Angel on Jan 8, 2016 4:41:06 GMT
For the record I do wear makeup but its generally very minimal so most can't tell if I have any on or not and that's just because I hate the way I look without it. CNGoodhue: Why not just be honest and ask. most times its better to be blunt and tell a person what's going on than keep silent and leave them wondering. if they're really your friend, they'll understand and you might even have a better friendship for it. If not you haven't lost anything, you just found out who's worth your time and who isn't. As for over analyzing, once you get to my age you generally stop caring as much because it gets easier to tell by just simple analyzation
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Post by NightBlade on Jan 8, 2016 4:55:12 GMT
Angel it's OK as long as you keep the dimples @cng yeah like she said. When you get to be an old fart then it gets easier cuz you worry less x)
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Post by Angel on Jan 8, 2016 4:58:34 GMT
xD NightBlade I usually try to hide those. Yup, pretty much what he said. Edit: Its called wisdom you ^_^ I dunno, I love being older. Its so much easier. This will be disagreed with I know ._.
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Post by NightBlade on Jan 8, 2016 5:04:52 GMT
Angel I knowwwww stooooooopppppp I like some things about it. Just not student loans or having to drive everywhere. Or being decrepit xP
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Post by Angel on Jan 8, 2016 5:08:57 GMT
NightBlade: Tiddly widdly. Yeah that's the bad part, thankfully I skipped college but apart from that, its awesome. You get to do all the great things you couldn't do when being little. Being little, just sucked. =.= And you are far from decrepit!!! Oh my gosh, where do you get your ideas from ^_^
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Post by NightBlade on Jan 8, 2016 5:15:19 GMT
Daheckuz dat mean? 0_o That must be nice xP hey being little was fun at times. Not having a care in the world, having so much simple wonder that you can't quite find anymore... But being older sure can be great! I am though... I have bad knees, a bad back and I have some white hair xP Perhaps we should migrate to Randomness...but I'm pooped and have a big day tomorrow. I shall resume with you later!
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Post by Angel on Jan 8, 2016 5:22:12 GMT
I have no idea ^_^ Noooooo. xD I mean it had its good points but I never liked being kid because I always wanted to an adult. It was booooring ^_^ Oh c'mon. There's plenty of remedies to fix that and make you feel young again! you're far from decrepit. I wont hear another word of it Sounds like a plan. but I'll reply here and then I'll move... Gooodnightttttt! ^_^ *moves to Randomness*
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Post by CNGoodhue on Jan 8, 2016 15:56:51 GMT
Thanks for all the replies guys :)
Yeah, everyone tells me that as you get older you begin to care less. I just wish it would get here faster haha.
Another smaller question. Most of you guys drive/have driven for years now, so how hard exactly is the permit test? I'm going to take it on Monday, and I've already studied a bunch, but I don't want to work myself up about it too much if it's the easiest thing in the world. :P
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Post by NightBlade on Jan 8, 2016 16:11:54 GMT
I thought the permit test was pretty easy after I went over the book. Mine was mostly common sense with a few weird technical questions. But us two are in different states than you, keep in mind
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